Potty training Montessori way
Toilet Learning Tips
The aforementioned graphic is of the toilet learning area of Otis. We're employing a cube seat here (the other is in his dressing/care of self region) as Otis needs support when standing. The pail is for clothes that is soiled. You may read that a signal of preparedness is walking. Otis is not walking but clearly knows when he needs to use the toilet. I used to not need to squander this opportunity so have commenced toilet learning and lose his clear sensitive period.
Camilla (mother of two) recently sent me these toileting tips. I found them so useful I desired to tell you. Maybe you'll find them useful also? The Directors at Forest Bluff School have provided these hints for allowing me to print here, and I truly thank them.
Indirect groundwork for toileting From arrival, change your son or daughter 's diaper when she is wet to give lots of indirect training (this can occasionally mean as frequently as every hour).
Using cloth diapers from the start helps immensely in acquiring comprehension since they feel wet instantly. This instantaneous feedback helps the child make the link involving the impulse to urinate and also the results of releasing her muscles. Toilet training thus occurs gradually, over time. Let her stand while you change her when your child is right at the age of pulling up to standing and talk about what you are doing, even involving the kid where you are able to. This way, she can see what exactly is occurring and take an interest. In the event that you might haven't done so already, move the diaper changing to the toilet when your child starts to stand and walk. This helps them make the appropriate organizations between actions and location.
Toilet trained by two?
I love having a toilet trained toddler. Life is so much easier. All of pain and the perseverance was worth it.
At 22 months I feel like I can say that Otis is trained - daytime only. We haven't approached night toileting but I must get to that soon. It has been debilitating. For about three months his toilet learning just plateaued. For three months I mean one or two injuries everyday - by plateaued. I can't remember his last injury. He occasionally makes a wreck but that is related to clothes that is catchy or dare I say being a boy. He needs help with his clothes. He also will not go anywhere other when compared to a potty or a toilet. His preferred location is a real toilet. He uses a step stool as well as a toddler seat when needed. Otis does not have accidents during his daytime naps once he wakes, but he will generally go. Same with car excursions, once we return home he'll usually go right to the toilet.
Amongst his peers he's neither late nor early. I personally do not feel there's an age whereby a kid should be trained but I believe that once a child knows (when they need to go) and have control (over their bodily functions) they should be given the chance (to use the potty/toilet). Once a child may use the potty I feel it is disrespectful to put them in a nappy (hence my wake up call to begin nighttime toileting). Additionally it's summer here and summer is really so simpler than winter. I have consistently had two years as an anticipation for my own children. Two fully coached Caspar. He night toileted easily. I am expecting the same with Otis. Yay to Otis and wish me luck with the nights.
Toilet learning - three phases
There is a wonderful feeling you get when your kid does the right thing at the most suitable time. It makes you feel proud, makes you feel like a parent that is great. Then there are times when your child repeatedly makes errors, messes or does the wrong thing and you also feel as a failure. Bathroom learning may be demanding like that. Wrecks are commonly made by Otis or has injuries but it is more public than others or worse, some days. It was on my bed, last week it was three puddles at our parent-toddler course. Mostly I simply get on with things, I don't make a fuss. He's getting it. Where are we at? Otis has been using the potty at home for many months now. At home he'll generally go without pants or have underpants on. If we are about to go out, have only been someplace or have guests over, Otis will wear pants/shorts. Recall it is summer here. At home he will generally make it to the potty however there's at least one injury a day, sometimes more.
Beware of the under-pant fixation. If it doesn't have a car on it - it won't be worn by Otis.
Emptying the potty is a huge deal. Otis takes great pride and care in wiping it clean, emptying it and taking the potty that is used to the toilet. Subsequently the fun of flushing the toilet just like a big boy. He's also super inquisitive about other family members using the toilet. I believe most toddlers are like this, exploring what goes on around them. Toileting at home - Phase One whole! We're currently working on Phase Two - toileting away from house. When we go out training slacks are normally worn by Otis. The only time Otis wears a nappy is at nighttime. As Otis does not always makes it to the toilet while we're out the training slacks catch most of the mess. I will have Otis sit on the potty before we go out. Often he just gets up and walks away. I'll give him a drink of water while he sits on the potty, if I know he really needs to go. This really is the only means I've been able to get him to use the potty on clue. There is some thing about having a drink that automatically makes him go. It is working. I keep a potty in the car and I shall often ask him to use the potty while we're out, if I still feel like he must go. He never has. This may not work for him. If we're at a friends house or at school I am going to take Otis to the toilet on arrival (if it is been a while since he has been) or when he gives me the indication which he needs to go (usually attaining/touching his slacks). So we've some success while we are outside but it is definitely requiring consideration and work.
Phase Three is at nighttime. Otis wears a nappy at night but often he takes off it. On his bed he's the puddle pad under his sheet. During the day he'll normally awaken and require to visit the potty straight away. I believe night time toileting naturally as Otis begins taking his nappy off more and will occur shortly and the use of the potty increases.
Toilet learning is a location where we haven't done it by the book. We've struggled at times and I am just explaining how it's working for us not I'd recommend it to others. We are finding our way. If you are searching for thoughts or recommendations the best way to approach toilet are some of the very best tricks I Have ever read. We will be travelling again this summer but I am not feeling uncertain. There'll be times when Otis will desire help/a change of clothes but I am actually feeling assured. The turtle that was reddish was picked up during our last journeys and it has become the favourite of Otis. It may be travelling with us. How are you going with toilet learning? I do not actually know of anyone at the same stage as us. Most kids we know have learned toileting at a younger age or the parents decided to wait until a later age before they start. Individuals are either shocked because we've began so early or believe we've started late.
Toilet learning - two steps forwards, one step back
Thank you in the base of my soul of all your kind opinions, tips, ideas, amusing stories and words of encouragement and warmth regarding my post on travelling using a toilet learning toddle.
As I mentioned we weren't just travelling, we were travelling last minute, I was travelling with the boys without my husband (thus feeling extra exposed) and we were also grieving for member of the family who's no longer with us. Gosh, I'm having trouble holding the tears back . Just how did we go?
We left home at about 4.30am. I consider this to be nighttime , and so I kept Otis in a nappy. But from the plane we went right to the car and that I chose to keep a nappy on. Although he might utilize the potty at home he wouldn't suggest in time for us to stop the auto. Until he was out of a nappy, it was well into the day. During our stay Otis in was in a mixture of nappies, panties and training trousers. He scarcely made it. We did not make much improvement. Now we're home the nappies are gone again (except for night). During our journeys I learnt several things that I need to remember. You do not have to be a great or even a good parent all of the time. Consistency is essential. Kids need uniformity to behave consistently. Kids must understand (very clearly) what's asked of these.
A flexible and relaxed approach will help keep you calm.. I hope my next toilet learning post is saturated in success and high fives. It can be a while. But I am not putting pressure on myself or Otis. Now we are back to our home environment and also a routine that is common we can continue toilet learning with that highly sought after uniformity.
Travelling with a toilet learning toddle - give me strength. We know the sensitive period for toilet learning is 12-18 months. Eek, Otis is now 17 months and although we've been doing nicely (by our standards) matters are still a bit hit and miss.
Otis wears training trousers or underpants in the home. When we're from the house training pants are typically worn by Otis. For his nighttime sleep he wears a nappy. To the potty he occasionally makes it at home. He knows when he needs to go. Occasionally he'll look at me and next thing and sometimes the potty will be looked at by him we understand there's a puddle on the floor. But progress is being made by him and we have been happy with where we're at. We received some tragic news last night. We shall be flying out to be with family first thing tomorrow. Together with all the craziness of making and unexpectedly packaging arrangements I nearly gave myself permission to return full time. We have a flight longs drives ahead of us. Many hours will likely be spent in the houses of family. I'm scared that Otis WOn't make use of the potty while we're away. That the preparation, washing and cleaning will be a waste of time. But if we go back? I know that a toilet learning toddler is nothing. But as we're toilet learning before than others it feels like we possess a point to prove (and that we shall fail miserably). My family are totally understanding, I understand there isn't any shame in having a toddler not allow it to be to the potty. There isn't any shame in wet pants. I am aware my family Otis and will support me.
DIY Wool Puddle Pad
What's a Puddle Pad?
A pad that operates much like a mattress protector. Additionally, it may be properly used as to protect your car seat or a change mat. Great for toilet learning as well as for ECers, leaky nappies, leaky babies toddles.
Why now? During the day Otis will normally take a nap together with his toilet learning on pants. Some moisture is absorbed by the pants but I don't need to risk a yucky mattress. Until I realised how easy it is to make one yourself, I nearly purchased a puddle pad.
I really dislike the mattress protectors I Have seen in our shops - tacky, artificial and crinkly. Cotton pads offer some protection but not as much as wool. I really adore wool plus it is:
Breathable, really helps to maintain a comfortable body temperature Cozy
All natural Antibacterial and anti fungal Uncomplicated to wash, with little flows a great airing is all that's needed odour repellent, only air frequently
How? Locate or thrift a 100% wool blanket, rather one that is soft and nice. I found this blanket. If you should be setting the blanket under a white or light sheet you may want a plain or neutral coloured blanket.
Felt the wool in a hot wash. I utilized the hot water setting and followed with a hot dry cycle.
Cut the blanket to size. I cut two pieces the same size for additional depth, I also ironed the blanket therefore it would lie flat.
Sew the two pieces together. I used a simple stitch throughout the border just to keep the pieces together. It can not fray as the wool is felted. You could only use one layer or fold one layer in half, should you don't sew.
Trim the edges to neaten up.
I 'ven't lanolised. As Otis is sleeping with his trousers on I expect the puddle pad to just ever get moist not fully soaked. Also I suppose it'd demand lots of lanolin that isn't cheap so I'm giving it a go unlanolised. Fingers crossed!
I'll set the pad underneath the sheet it keep it in place. So hopefully I Have made it large enough, he really doesn't go much in his slumber. I have heaps of the felted blanket remaining, I'm thinking of cutting it into squares for cleaning or polishing??
When to start toileting
Between eighteen and twelve months is for starting toilet knowledge, the sensitive period. It might begin later or sooner, according to the little one. Look for signals of readiness: An interest in cycles (bib now goes in the hamper, hamper would go to the cellar, into the machine, etc. Kid watches with interest as well as follows along).
Kid is walking. You find child touches her/his genitals. Child is beginning to have bowel movements at particular times of day. Although a kid exhibits none of those hints but will become interested the moment you start to attract her focus on toileting, so we advocate starting before 18 months. For toileting success equip! To get started, purchase as many as 30 pairs of thick underpants. We advocate Gerber training pants which come 3 in a pack for about 5 dollars at Target (US). They may be least expensive and the most absorbent, but durable. For success, the leg holes should be large enough as well as the knickers loose enough that it could be pulled up and down without extraneous attempt on the kid's part. To get a young child between 18 and 12 months, Gerber training pants, size two, is advocated. As the child approaches or if she is large for her age, she is going to want size three. Put a piece of flannel that is rubberized and buy several sheets of it for the bed. Be certain you have many pairs of pull-on pants to your child, as he may need to alter frequently.
Have a lot of bed sheets so you could change them frequently.
Pull fine carpets up. Find "Nature's Miracle" at a pet shop, to promptly and effectively clean carpets or the flooring when necessary. This product is safe for nice carpets removes not just the spot, but the scent, and can just be left on the rug.
Set out small potties, a variety if necessary, and support the child to sit on them, praising when she or he does. Our favorite is the quite little Baby Bjorn potty, costing about $10 in catalogs. There are two sizes, both useful, as an alternative to the toilet that is actual, helps the kid in two ways: he can be more independent and feel protected; and he can clearly see his results-waste in the potty-after. Set a potty in every toilet with a small pail to the left and modest basket of clean knickers on the right. Bath mat or a folded towel underneath the three things creates a nonslip surface and an appearance that is arranges. When you begin toileting These first three points are the most crucial, because they must do with bringing your kid's attention to the part of our daily lives: Let her see you and other family members sitting on the bathroom as much as possible. At first, take your son or daughter to the toilet every half hour or so and encourage her to sit on it while you sit on the adult toilet ( only to get an instant, as would be natural). Doing this helps your child to understand through the experience of utilizing the toilet, which works far much better than asking your kid," Do you need to head to the restroom ?" Which usually gets a "No!" even when they do need to really go! It is very important that the kid change into dry underwear promptly after wetting it. We want her to be used to the feeling of dryness, and also to react immediately to wetness.
In the early stages, your child could wear just her underwear from the waist down, so that changing and using the potty is uncomplicated and doesn't take long. Time is key with getting bowel movements to the toilets! In the event you discover that your child has a bowel movement around the exact same time every day, make it a routine time to go the toilet together and sit on the toilets. Observe him attentively and take him to the bathroom instantly if he went in his underpants, to help you help him change, watch the BM go into the bathroom and flush it down in case your kid is unusual in his timing. Continue your attempt to get him to sit and "hang out" to the toilet when you think a bowel movement might be on its way - you can even read books together to pass the time if that works. Continue to try to involve the child in dressing and undressing. Show her that you are setting the pee to the bigger toilet and flushing if the kid urinates in her toilet. In redressing her, giving particular awareness of helping her learn to put her underwear that is dry on alone afterward collaborate.
It helps in the first periods to really have a potty in whatever room he's playing in so it can be seen by him and get to it. He should just wear pants that are simple to pull himself up and down, and will be nude or in underwear from your waist down when reasonable in this phase.
Throw out all diapers when you begin this toiling period. You child must be set up for success and feel our assurance that, eventually, he'll have the capacity to make use of the toilet each time. Many youngsters use the toilet until they are elderly and sleep too greatly to awaken. There are different ways to handle this, depending on your child, her age, and also the period you've reached in toileting. Confer with your child's director. Through the first stages of toilet training, bring a potty with you (to use at your destination) when you take your kid outside in the automobile. Put it in the toilet of the home you might be seeing, even if it's merely a brief stay. This helps establish the routine of going to the toilet upon arriving at destinations and upon leaving the house. Upon returning regularly, before leaving the home and when out as well as around, take your youngster to public toilets. We recommend making it a habit, and matter-of-factly saying, "We all sit on the bathroom for an instant before venturing out and upon coming home". (Just get them to sit for a minute - if they pop back up or do not urinate, simply disregard it and move on. Eventually, they will pick to make use of this opportunity.)
For plane rides or special occasions, we encourage you not to put your child back into a diaper, but alternatively, set an Nikki diaper wrap over her panties. Manufactured from soft waterproof fabric this diaper cover permits you to still check for wetness, so your training period is not interrupted. This can be a fine " safety net" for you in certain public situations. Constantly keep a few changes of underwear and pants in the car, so as you are able to come back to the car for an instant change as soon as your kid is wet, and after that restart your shopping. For me the best advice is how exactly to handle toileting when far from home. Caspar grabbed toileting before he was two I 'd him in nappies when we were out because I was scared of creating a wreck. Our wonderful Montessori parent- toddler teacher gave me the push I needed and without her encouragement I'd have kept Caspar in nappies for much more. This time with Otis I'll feel more assured leaving the house nappy-less and will be using many of the suggestions. Really I am off now to order more loo learning slacks and then to set up another toileting area within my bathroom.
Toilet Learning Trousers
Along with shoes we also ordered these toilet learning slacks from Michael Olaf.
Otis has been wearing training pants for a little while like the red ones in this post although as it is possible to see they may be bulky and absorb much just like a nappy Otis or I could even tell he was wet. I used to be searching for pants that were;
Absorbent enough there isn't any puddle but the child feels wet
Easy to view the kid is wet
Slimline, not at all bulky
Simple to get on and off, even to get an incredibly young kid
Produced from natural fibers
These slacks are perfect for us. They're manufactured from organic cotton and so far no pools. Not even a wet bed. Although I don't by choice have him sleep in them. I normally shift him before bed, sometimes I do not get a chance.
Otis only wears them when we're at home. When he's in training slacks I'm able to view when he is wet and have worked out a small routine. Otis is also very conscious of when he has to use the toilet (potty) but occasionally we do not make it in time. The pants also help with self confidence. We will go put on a dry pair no problem in the event the pants get wet.
Otis wearing his training pants climbing into his walker wagon